Are parents turning their children into bullies?

30 May 2012, 4:07 pm   -   Source: SBS
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Are parents turning their children into bullies?

Are parents turning their children into bullies?

New research has recognised a disturbing link between endlessly praising children and child bullying. Children who have been brought up with an over-inflated sense of entitlement and high self-esteem tend to be the ones who bully. Are parents who incessantly lavish praise on their little darlings at fault when they turn into bullies? Have your say.

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Reality

Loz Because - from Brisbane, 9 months ago

Children need encouragement to learn about fairness and decency. I've just read a horrific fb page about punishing children with a belt and called for people to 'like to stop this'. The page was filled with people espousing 'spare the rod and spoil the child'. Ultimately whilst some called a belting child abuse many more stated that kids deserved it if they were bad - it wasn't abuse it was teaching respect. Teaching children to have self esteem and being indulged are 2 different concepts.

another superficial research

phw - from canberra, 10 months ago

what new research? where is your link to the relevant paper to study details? this type of irresponsible generalisation harms both parents and their children. keep praising and criticising where deserved. to identify sources for bullying and other anti-social behavior just watch commercial television, facebook or parlamentary question time.

Mm

Kim - from Gippsland, 12 months ago

No discipline equals no no boundaries equals putting self first. Without strongly upheld restraints there is no respect for others or the law. Example: Modern society.

Boundaries

Rolly - from Perth, 1 year

As with all gregarious animals, humans need to be aware of the boundaries that their society needs them to operate within. Unfortunately, many adults are themselves not inclined to conform to these limits and create an illusion that individuality is prime and that the rest of society exists for their benefit. Their actions and examples are passed on generationally, by both example and instruction.

Are parents turning their kids into bullies

Ol' Lady - from Perth WA, 1 year

Absolutely, they are teaching kids to have no respect for other people & other peoples possessions & feelings. The little horrors think everyhting is just about them. We need to bring back some form of discipline right now before its too late.

THNIK ....(think)

fred nerk - from Tungahmah Victoria, 1 year

YOUR kids' are what YOU make them! .................I'm proud of mine' !

klingon

drog - from gark, 1 year

They do get violent if they cant get there own way, More beatings when they are little will sort them out, they will get it when they hit the real world anyway.

Praise them for the right things and praise them often.

CAMELIA - from CANBERRA, 1 year

I have a child who is the victim of bulling, often, he also undertakes therapy for his problems. The children bullying my child don't have a high self esteem. If they did their minds would be occupied elsewhere. Praise is wonderful, lets reserve it for empathy, compassion, courage, determination, patience, resilience and dedication. Building self esteem based upon external achievements will cause problems eventually, is that really self esteem anyway?

Kids need a reality check - not smothered to death

Uncle Jim - from St Kilda, 1 year

Absolutely they are at fault and so far removed from reality that they are clearly off the planet. All it does is create false expectations in their kids that society will be in awe of them; only to discover that society does not care who they are, just another face in the crowd. Its about time we stop this cottonwool approach and let kids be kids so they learn to deal with the realities of life and stop having ambulances at the top, middle and bottom of the cliff. it is ridiculous.

Spoilt Brats!

True Blue Ozzie - from Gladstone Q, 1 year

I've seen it, 2 working parents, give there kids everything they want and demand, trying to compensate for the lack of quality parenting time. The result is kids expecting to get what they want now, they will go to any lenghts to get it. I've seen these kids bullie there parents, in order to get what they wont., naturaly these traits become part of the kids every day lives. No you can not have, is a very imortant phrase and life skill dying to Yes Yes you can have!

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