• Tell that husband of yours, if he wants you to cut his hair, he has to pay for college or TAFE for you to train as a hairdresser. (Getty Images)
The 'real' Jenny answers one reader's burning problem about her husband's childish attachment to his mother (and a cheapskate request for home-based hair cuts).
By
Jenny Law

8 Jun 2017 - 4:22 PM  UPDATED 16 Jun 2017 - 10:25 AM

Dear Jenny,

I’ve been married for two years now. My husband wants me to cut his hair, even though I can’t cut hair and don’t want to cut hair. We also can afford for him to have someone else cut his hair. His mum used to cut his hair and I guess he’s just used to it. But he kept nagging me until I did it and it turned out terribly and then he got mad at me! But he still wants me to do it and thinks I just need to focus and practice. I do not want to cut hair, but it seems to mean a lot to him. Otherwise we get along great. Do I just keep trying to make the effort to keep the peace? Thanks.

"His mum used to cut his hair and I guess he’s just used to it. But he kept nagging me until I did it and it turned out terribly and then he got mad at me!"

JENNY SAYS: 

You poor woman. Marrying a childish man like him, it sounds like he’s attached to his mother’s apron strings. I like that he’s got that emotional attachment to his mother, but he has to consider the stress upon you too. You’re not his mother! He should appreciate that you’ve tried your best to cut his hair. 

People need to train for years to become a professional hairdresser. I never even cut my children’s hair – I was never brave enough. Jenny’s not even brave enough to colour my own hair. My hair is very important to me – very important. Top of the list. If you don’t colour your hair, it adds 10 years to your age. I’ll let my face grow old gracefully. Not my hair. 

Or put a china bowl upside down on top of his head, like most traditional Chinese mums cutting their kids' hair. 

So find a good hairdresser and pay money. Personally if I lost my hairdresser (at the moment my hairdresser in Brisbane is very good, I forget the name but they’re Asian, no appointment, walk-in, pay cash, only 30 bucks, how good is that?), I would feel like I’ve lost my favourite lipstick. 

Tell that husband of yours, if he wants you to cut his hair, he has to pay for college or TAFE for you to train as a hairdresser. And if this childish and stubborn husband of yours wants you to keep cutting his hair, and he’s not happy with the end result – even getting mad at you! – then shave off all his hair. Or put a china bowl upside down on top of his head, like most traditional Chinese mums cutting their kids' hair. Cut-cut-cut! Men like this need to be punished.

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