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When Yusuf Tamanna tweeted about a bad Tinder date, he never expected to end up on the receiving end of racial abuse.
Stephanie Marie Anderson

23 Aug 2016 - 5:20 PM  UPDATED 23 Aug 2016 - 5:20 PM

Social media is a wonderful thing. You can share all the wonderful things you're up to with a collection of friends and strangers who ~ideally~ find your tales interesting or entertaining. You can document your entire life for the world to see. Unfortunately, sometimes the world includes the people you're tweeting about, and this is a tale of what can happen when they find your tweet and blow up your mentions.

Yusuf Tamanna tells SBS that he was 40 minutes into a Tinder date when he realised that it was all going horribly wrong, and took to Twitter to plead for help:


"I think within the first 40 mins to an hour I was telling myself 'ABORT MISSION! Abort!!!'," says Tamanna.

Later, Tamanna was in a café with a friend when he noticed that his date had found the tweet and quoted it:


Tamanna initially "didn't think anything of it," saying that "it was a passing tweet about a bad date I had, like 'oh, he found my tweet, oh well'," but as his date's tweet went viral and got picked up by Attitude and BuzzFeed, he found himself the target of racial abuse.

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"When I started seeing things like 'oh you smelly Paki' or 'oh I wouldn't date you anyway!' from random people I was like 'oh wow, we're playing that game now?'," he says. 

Tamanna, who works as a journalist, tells SBS that his employers "called and texted" him to ask why his work was "being flooded with rude and abhorrent comments".

"That's when I was like 'OK fine, you can insult me and not like me or whatever but to come after my own work is something else'," he says.

Posting a note to Twitter, Tamanna details the three-hour date, saying that aside from being "vapid", his date made conversation by saying "I don't mean to be racist but...", making racial generalisations about the Arab community living in London, "claiming that they do nothing and live off their riches back home and contribute nothing to London".

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"After Buzzfeed and Attitude made articles about the whole fiasco at my expense I decided to...say what really happened," he says, adding "if I knew one innocent tweet would blow up this much I wouldn't have even bothered!"

Overall Tamanna says that the experience "sucked," but that he can "take it".

"I've not been sitting around wallowing in my own self pity, it's Twitter after all," he quips.

And the experience hasn't put him off online dating, because "one bad experience can't tar the rest of them".

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"This whole thing is a great conversation starter for my next date!" he jokes, conceding that he's perhaps "less likely to tweet" about future dates.

Tamanna's date has not responded to SBS' request for comment, but has tweeted that "you can make anyone sound bad if you take something completely out of context and manipulate it," calling Tamanna's side of the story a "bunch of lies and sentences taken completely out of context".

Read Yusuf Tamanna's piece, "No Rice, No Curry And No Blacks: The Sexual Racism Running Rampant Within the LGBT Community" here.