In a world where mummy blogs reign supreme and anything – even the most bizarre of birthing videos – is searchable, you would think life as a first-time parent would be easier.
Instead, for many, it seems to have created a culture of mummy shaming, where other parents jump on their high horses and tell you in no uncertain terms, just how wrong everything you’re doing is.
But at least the everyday folks looking to the Internet to share their experience aren’t alone in this struggle, as Victoria’s Secret model Chrissy Teigen has just discovered.
The American beauty, who is of Thai and Norwegian descent, was trolled on Twitter yesterday after she and her husband John Legend went out for dinner.
The pair have a two-week-old baby girl at home and the criticism rained down hard and fast for their crime of leaving their newborn to grab a meal.
Naturally the blame fell squarely on the mother and comments ranged from accusations of abandoning her child, to chasing the limelight, being desperate to show off her post-baby “snap back”, and having an “after birth smell”.
Weathering the blows with an estimable level of calm, Chrissy simply responded by sharing a couple of the more vulgar messages to Twitter with the words, “I went to dinner. People are pissed.”
Proving the world isn’t all haters, she also had plenty of support with one user saying, “Ffs, people, it's not like she left the baby in a cage with a hungry marmot. It's dinner for a couple of hours! It's fine!”
Another added, “Why is this an issue? She went out to dinner with her husband, God forbid she has a few hours with her husband, doesn't make her a bad mom. So no #badmother #poorbaby shit, that baby has it better than any of us.”
Back in Australia, reality star Chrissie Swan had a similar experience after she came under fire for her decision to appear on I’m a Celebrity…Get Me Out of Here! last year while leaving her then one, three and seven-year-old children at home with their father.
Radio host Peter Ford accused her of “chasing fame”, writing on Twitter, “Chrissie Swan looks set to win Celeb. Not sure what it says about society that we reward a mother who leaves a 1 year old baby to chase fame”.
However, many members of the public were quick to respond on Chrissy’s behalf, piping up to say “What a stupid misinformed comment. Yes let's make a mother feel guilty about working. Move back to the 1950s mate” and “@ChrissieSwan works her butt off to support her family! She is the last person you can accuse of chasing fame!”
Meanwhile Kayla Boyd, the wife of Brisbane Broncos star Darius Boyd, was also recently slammed as a “bad mother” by fans after she attended one of his games without her 11-day-old daughter.
She responded by writing on Instagram, “For the people who have commented negatively on my life as a new mother, you have no right and if it bothers you that much, simply unfollow my social media page”.