Mark Manson believes that pain and struggle are greater determinants of how our lives turn out.
Mark Manson wrote;
If I ask you, What do you want out of life? and you say something like, I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like, its so ubiquitous that it doesnt even mean anything.
A more interesting question, a question that perhaps youve never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
What determines your success isnt What do you want to enjoy? The question is, What pain do you want to sustain? The quality of your life is not determined by the quality of your positive experiences but the quality of your negative experiences. And to get good at dealing with negative experiences is to get good at dealing with life.
