Everyone wants to matter, everyone wants to be someone, be appreciated and recognised.
‘Everyone wants to matter’: How we can prevent hate and division in our neighbourhoods

Community group Carry and Connect brings men from all walks of life together, building a sense of community and support. Credit: Carry and Connect
Our social cohesion is under threat. But building stronger community ties can help grow connection, trust and shared belonging.
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Prime Minister Anthony Albanese
They were attempts to undermine social cohesion and sow discord in our community.
Nic
That was Prime Minister Anthony Albanese using a popular phrase among political leaders today. ‘Social cohesion’ - We’ve heard it’s under strain from many angles, including foreign state actors and our economy. So, what does it mean? Here’s one interpretation from Dr James O’Donnell, a demographer at the Australian National University.
James O’Donnell
How we connect with each other, the sort of harmony, collaboration and trust and sense of belonging that goes with that, and how actively involved we are in the sort of common good.
Nic
From SBS Examines, I’m Nic Zoumboulis. And in our final episode of Understanding Hate, we’re asking - How can we prevent division and protect social cohesion? Recently, we’ve seen nationwide rallies provoke fear and, in some cases, violence, against marginalised communities. Here’s Mario Peucker, who's an expert in far-right extremism, and an associate professor at Victoria University.
Mario Peucker
Everyone wants to matter, everyone wants to be someone, be appreciated, and recognised. But if larger, I would say increasing parts of society, feel that their opinions don't count, their views are disrespected, their voices are not heard, then there's an opening for extremist groups to pretend to address those needs that humans that we all have.
Nic
Dr Peucker said being part of a volunteering and community group can actually help prevent the sort of violent, raging polarisation we’ve recently seen occur.
Mario Peucker
If you are volunteering in your local neighbourhood and you feel well connected, you might still be angry about certain policy decisions. You might have some moral outrage, but you don't feel that the need to find that in a tribal rage. It also helps people to meet their human needs for recognition and respect and social connectedness, social worth.
Nic
Willem van Zanten runs a community group in Melbourne, called Carry and Connect. Every Saturday morning, men meet up to carry sandbags and dumbbells over a few kilometres' walk together. But there's more to the group than just exercise.
Willem van Zanten
We connect in the process. And the idea is through the walking, with the weight coming together, you sort of forget about yourself and you can decompress with the men via talking about what you're struggling with and what's going on in your life.
Nic
The group has provided men from all walks of life with a sense of community and support – something many of them were missing.
Willem van Zanten
I think the main benefit is that you feel like you are connected to other men. You get to hear their problems, you get to realise they often have the same problems that you do. I think you realise that you are not an individual. You're part of a whole.
Nic
Having tight-knit, local communities is only one part of the process when it comes to building trust across society. Here's Dr O’ Donnell.
James O’Donnell
How much do we trust people comes from the people that we're connecting with on a daily basis. And you could have a really tight-knit neighbourhood and still could be discriminatory towards people not living in that local community or neighbourhood. So there's got to be some sort of bridges between people of different backgrounds across society to build up our overall societal level of cohesion.
Nic
Willem said a strength of his fitness group is that it actively includes people of all ages, cultural background, and ability.
Willem van Zanten
We build tolerance through men coming together, forgetting the little name tags of being a doctor, being a lawyer, being a policeman . We had an immigrant join us recently. He came to Australia via boat and really started to see his side of the story. He wasn't just an immigrant anymore. Now he was one of us. So next time when I hear something in the news about an immigrant I go, 'but hold on, that could be that guy'.
Nic
Throughout this series, we’ve heard from experts and community leaders concerned with rising levels of hatred. And while focusing on this division, the world can seem dark and overwhelming. But it's helpful to remember, we’ve also heard positive stories where people are working together to bridge cultural divides and build harmony. And support for diversity and multiculturalism in Australia has remained high and people are looking out for each other – so there’s good reason to remain optimistic. Here’s Dr O’Donnell again.
James O’Donnell
There is a positive story there, and I think hang onto to that and celebrate that and look into what makes that strong and how we can maintain it.
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This episode was produced and presented by Nic Zoumboulis. To find out more, visit sbs.com.au/sbsexamines










